Comments on: Age - It’s Just A Number

By: Ms. Q

Ms. Q — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 18:26:40 +0000

Until I hit my 40s, I wasn’t all that interested in dating younger men. I’m okay with 5-6 years younger now and that’s more because men have decided about late 30s if they want children or not. Men in their late 30s also seem to have dated enough to know what they want. Not that younger men don’t know what they want.

I pretty much have a plus/minus 5 year age range. There’s some “wiggle room” but it’s a range.

By: Relationship Games

Relationship Games — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 07:10:30 +0000

[...] young and old are how they deal with relationships. Even more important than their years (after all age is just a number) is the maturity with which they handle [...]

By: Derek

Derek — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 16:51:09 +0000

Well when I said “generally” I meant that I’m generally okay with points not mattering. But I can’t speak in absolutes because I’m sure that there are situations that I’m not okay with. Sorry for that confusion. I had to look back to see what I was saying anyways. I’m not sure that I agree in theory with how people meet being an issue. You might think that there are conflicts, but maybe it shouldn’t be. Check out an article about Martin Luther’s marriage that I recently read to see why I’ve been thinking some of the things that I have.

And remember, a lot of these things that I think about for relationships are for the initial contact. I just don’t like it when people make snap judgments based on things like age. After a relationship is established, there are a lot more things that are fair game for criticism.

By: melissa

melissa — Wed, 02 Apr 2008 01:29:32 +0000

okay. i do agree that the issue is whether or not the real person can be seen through the issue of age…and i think that it could happen. That’s why i said the whole thing about it depends on how they know each other and at what point in life they meet. and about that post validating people’s opinions…it is so much more than just the age that makes me feel so strongly. i guess it’s situation specific. but again, in general…weird. which points are you “generally” okay with and why just generally?

By: Marty

Marty — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 06:05:53 +0000

Haha, all right, I think I’m ready ready to put theorizing about the perception of age to rest for now. Thanks for addressing the specifics of high school relationships to me. I’m sure they’re revelations I ought to keep in mind throughout the next month… Anyway, thanks to this blog, I should be ascending the ranks of your comment members now, mwahahaha. Okay, whatever. Talk to you later!

By: Derek

Derek — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 04:01:28 +0000

Haha that blurb of thought made me laugh. Maybe because it was such a stream of consciousness. But those opinions from you don’t surprise me. Maybe you shouldn’t show certain people this post. It’ll only validate them even more.

Oh and while you do have points, I think that they can ultimately not matter. And I’m generally okay with that.

The bigger issue, though, is actually being able to see beyond something like age to the actual person. Would you agree that’s correct? Or would you have to disagree in order to uphold your thoughts about other things that are going on around you?

By: Melissa

Melissa — Tue, 01 Apr 2008 03:00:25 +0000

I feel like age matters when you’ve literally seen someone grow up and then they start dating someone your age. (hello, you’ve gotta agree that my case is different). It’s just plain weird. I mean if two people that have an age gap happen to meet, then, whatever..not so strange. It’s different when they’ve known each other for forever as one thing and then suddenly things change…or maybe it’s just strange for the people around them haha. I think that it also depends on what “walk of life” one is in. If two people are different ages, yet pretty much at the same place in life, then hey, okay maybe age doesn’t matter. It’s not always too young that I wouldn’t consider, but too old is also something that matters to me. sorry. just my personal preferences and thoughts!

By: Derek

Derek — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 05:49:35 +0000

You probably accurately took what I said, but I probably said it wrong. Or in an ambiguous way that made you think that. I don’t actually think that high school relationships don’t matter. I think that they definitely teach people things. And sometimes they really do work out.

Maybe it’d be more accurate to say that as one gets older and older (including in school) age should matter less and less. There’s a marked difference in maturity between someone in elementary school and someone in junior high. However, the difference is not so marked between say a senior and a junior in high school. So I was wrong to say that your rules apply to high school. I actually think that they shouldn’t (because by then you’re older and it should be mattering less and less).

So…sorry about the confusion. I like asking you because I know that you must think of it. I know that I did. And I do think that they’re important. They just unfortunately don’t result in marriage (which is more important). But they’re a step in the whole learning/self-realization/maturing process. So basically I forgot to take that into account in my previous response to your comment.

Oh and good job actually using the threaded comments! (Where you actually made your comment reply to mine.) Not too many people actually use it (besides me).

By: Marty

Marty — Mon, 31 Mar 2008 01:38:54 +0000

So basically, you’re saying (of my high school relationships point)… I’m right… but it doesn’t really matter? I could agree with that, although I do then find it quite trivial that you so much enjoy inquiring me of my high school romantic attractions when they admittedly don’t really matter (”usually”), haha. Of course, I’m sure you do have a very logical explanation for that.

I must also confess to being guilty of telling underclassmen that they’ll understand something when they’ll get older (although jokingly), simply because I don’t feel like exerting the time and effort to explain to them at the moment. But yeah, that made sense to me. It’s not only you, haha.

Wasn’t the wine-cheese analogy the only one in the post? Well, I was just referring to whatever you were essentially complimenting yourself for, and I believe that was it. So, you’re welcome!

By: Derek

Derek — Sat, 29 Mar 2008 05:59:17 +0000

I’m glad that you enjoyed it. I’m also glad that age isn’t an issue for you!