The Real Better Half
Tagged as: May 07Have you heard people talk about their spouse as “their better half”? It’s an interesting (and kind) thing to say. Often it’s the guy talking about his wife, but not always so. It’s slightly demeaning towards the “lesser half” (often self-deprecating since that person will say it about themselves) but that’s supposed to be hidden by the elevation of the spouse.
So my question is, how can both of them be the better half? I really don’t think that can be the case. I had a talk quite sometime back about this. We talked about different couples that we know, and sad as it was we realized that we could usually think of one person in the relationship who was a better catch. We weren’t trying to be mean (at least I don’t remember that being the intention, I think it was just a commentary on things that we saw). Still, it’s an interesting thought huh?
Think of a couple, and I’d hazard a guess that you could think that one of them is a bit of a better catch than the other. Now why this might be will obviously change from case to case.
Why did I write this? I don’t know, I just thought about it all of a sudden. And I thought it was an interesting thought. Don’t read into it too much or your head will hurt. And nobody likes headaches. Nobody. But do appreciate your other half for what who they are!
hah! i totally agree.
and you mean “who they are”? haha
I suppose that spouses are indeed people rather than things.
random entry, derekson. you’re right, i don’t like headaches. so i won’t think about it.
Aren’t all of my entries pretty random? I take it that you don’t agree with the post then? Haha good idea, headaches are no fun.
Sometimes random posts are the best. You’ve seen a few of mine! Random posts are a great way to see what all else is going on in someone’s head. I mean, we’re not really all one track - that is, our blog “focus” is just that - maybe what we choose to share and not the whole of us. Not that can actually share that barring some Mind Meld.
Yes, I have seen couples where I thought one was a better catch in some form. However, usually they equal out between their various “catchier” areas. Like one is a better catch based on looks but the other has a nicer personality. Things like that. “Better” is all relative though. Goes back to that old saying, “One man’s meat is another man’s poison.”
But the big question your Readers Want To Know is if you think you’re a catch and are you usually the Better Half
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Yeah I definitely enjoy random posts (that I write or read). Of course, most of mine are random since I don’t actually have a directed focus on this blog!
That’s true, each person in a relationship usually does have their good points. But I guess that I always think that to the observer one of them comes out better. That is, if there was a relationship with one person looking better and the other having a better personality, I’d probably say that the one with the better personality is the “better half”. I guess similarly I think about which person “won out” with the relationship.
Haha I think that I really want to find someone who can be my better half. That is, I want to be the one who feels grateful and lucky to have found the person. Maybe that’s what everyone aims to be. I wouldn’t mind if other people thought that I were the better half as long as I truly thought that the other person were the better half. Seems like a bit of a cop-out answer, but it’s the truth!
Actually, I think I know exactly what you mean - I want to feel like I got totally lucky in a relationship. Not in any low-esteem way but just bowled away by the person.
I have to say the real better half does exist. But it is not easy for everyone to find his/her real better half.