Noticing Wedding Gifts
Tagged as: Jul 21I often figure that when I am in a large crowd, I will be much less noticed than when I am alone. This often turns out to be true, and I often enjoy blending in with the crowd. It provides a measure of anonymity that is sometimes desirable.
Weddings can be small or large affairs where each individual guest is merely a single person in a larger group. So it can stand to reason that each guest will think that they do not stand out too much.
While we (my wife and I) made a conscious effort to be thankful for everything that was given to us, I have an insider’s tip for everyone that has not gone through a wedding yet: the bride and groom notice a lot more than you think. That means that your thoughtful, generous, cheap, or even missing gifts are noticed. This directly correlates with how close to the married couple you are. Do not be fooled into thinking that of 10′s, 100′s, or even 1000′s of gifts yours will not be noticed. While the day of the wedding might be a blur, the aftermath of finding out what people decided to gift you with is a much longer process that allows for more consideration.
The purpose of weddings is definitely not gifts, but I figured that this tip might be useful to a lot of people who had not discovered it for themselves already. Either that, or we are the only ones, and we might have noticed you (for good or for bad). Remember that sometimes it’s the thought that counts and sometimes the thought only gets you so much. And then you have to at least give a well thought out card!
We asked people not to give us gifts, and surprisingly enough it worked. We did ask that if people needed to mark the occasion that way, that they make the gift be to one of a few charities, and some people did. Now the part I’m not sure of is writing the thank you notes. If someone just came to the wedding, but didn’t make a donation or bring a gift, does that mean I still just write them a thank you note for coming?
How long ago was your wedding? Do you still remember the gifts?
My wedding was a little less than 2 months ago. Some of the gifts I do still remember. I am especially fond of the gifts that remind me of the person that gave the gift to me.
Yeah I don’t know what you should do about the thank you notes. Personally we will probably use the gift registrar list since that’s how we will know if they attended. Then again, I am probably in a different boat than you in terms of actually getting gifts.
Well, a day or two after the wedding, I made a note on the invite list of who attended, so I should be ok there. I think I’m just going to send a thank you note to everyone.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!! I didn’t really want to admit that I didn’t remember you were married, but I never remembered you posting about a wife. So I figured it was safer to just ask about the time frame before congratulating you.
Apparently I have an excuse for missing your announcement though – it was two days after our wedding! Congratulations again! And congrats on the house too! That’s a big deal!